9 Things to Know about French Culture Before You Visit

With a little know-how, you can make your trip to France exceptional

“Whenever you go on a trip to visit foreign lands or distant places, remember that they are all someone’s home and backyard.”

Vera Nazarian

Knowing your audience is essential to ensure positive and productive interactions. This occurs daily with our families, friends, and co-workers, and when interacting with the public. Different cultures have different etiquette and expectations. When we travel, we come from the perspective that we are a guest in the country, the place they call home. It is our job as that guest to be a good one. We always take the time to learn at least the basic phrases to show our effort. More importantly, we take the time to learn the culture to show respect for their way of life. That does mean you have to agree with it but you need to be accepting of their traditions and culture. This is especially important when visiting France. As a result, I wrote this post on the 9 Things to Know about French Culture Before You Visit.

French heritage

First, let me start with some background and why I feel I am in a solid position to provide the 9 Things to Know about French Culture Before You Visit. I am a first-generation American born to French immigrants. French was my first language, and all of my extended family still lives in France. I have dual citizenship in the US and France. We traveled frequently to visit family all over France during my childhood. As an adult, I have continued to visit France every few years.

When I visit France, the locals at first assume I am an American who speaks good French. My French is pretty sketchy now, and everything else about me says American. Once, a shopkeeper in Paris said translated, “I find your French baffling; your grammar is atrocious, but your accent is excellent.” It was the perfect description! To add to my experience beyond French being my native language, I have a behavioral science background that draws me to keenly observe the interactions around me.

A reputation a bit misunderstood

The French have a reputation for being rude, intolerant, and hating Americans. That is so far from the truth, in my opinion. I have observed interactions that reflect that, but in most cases, with a small bit of knowledge, that can be rare.

French people are some of the kindest and most gracious people I have encountered in my travels. That is not my native bias speaking but from close observations outside of my interactions. I have taken many American friends of all ages and watched closely and have taken the time to watch fellow American travelers interact with the locals.

When I travel to accompany friends and family for the first time, I always share my top 9 Things to know about French culture before you visit (#1 below is the most valuable one, I believe). My friends and family have rarely had negative experiences anywhere in France after that. My kids have traveled with me and alone and have never had issues. One of their observations after a three-week trip all over France was the only rude people they came across were Americans on the TGV who were shoving past people.

Cultural Norm

The French follow established manners, rules, and cultural customs or, simply said, etiquette. These are very important to the French, and by acting on these, you will find a much warmer and kinder welcome. The French are proud people; being aware and showing respect goes a long way. You are a guest in their country, be a good one. Being cognizant of the 9 Things to know about French culture before you visit and how best to interact with the French people, you will likely find your experience remarkable.

As a disclaimer, I am not saying there are no rude French people, but in my travels around the world, they are some of the most polite travelers I have encountered. All cultures have people who lack manners, grace, and appropriate behavior. I have seen what foreigners call the “ugly Americans”, but they are not the norm.

Tip #1 Manners

“Manners are about imagination, ultimately. They are about imagining being the other person.”

Lynne Truss

This is an important one!!! Let me set up the scenario. Imagine a guest walking in your home’s front door without acknowledging you, without a word or greeting. They then walk around your home and make themselves comfortable while ignoring you. Would that irritate you? That is the crux of why many people receive what they call rude treatment or a cold shoulder when they enter a shop. The shopkeeper was first treated rudely per their customs, and their response was in kind. Right or wrong, that is why.

The French are a bit more formal and polite. As you walk into a boulangerie, patisserie, small boutique, pharmacy, or shop, you should always acknowledge the shopkeeper with eye contact and a clearly spoken Bonjour Madame (women) or Bonjour Monsieur (men). Do this immediately before entering the store, and don’t wait for them to greet you. The person you will encounter is often the owner, so this is their business, their livelihood, and sometimes their home.

Want to add some brownie points? Follow your hello with Comment ca va? (How are you?) This is how the French people often do it. Just a simple effort can bring a much more helpful and gracious salesperson. Observing many interactions over the years, I have found it pretty funny how improved the salesperson’s English suddenly becomes when treated politely.

As you depart, you can also throw in one or all of the following: Aurevoir, Merci Beaucoup, Bonne Journee. (Goodbye, Thank you, and Have a good day.) It shows respect and is the norm culturally. Would you leave a home you were a guest at and not say goodbye?

Tip #2 Restaurant Greetings

The above rule works well in restaurants too. Always make eye contact and greet the Host/Hostess upon entering. Once seated, greet your server and anyone else that comes to your table. Speak softly and slowly, as some Americans tend to speak very loudly and condescendingly, as if it helps the staff understand English better. It is rude to the server and, in the process, disturbs other guests and the staff.

Interestingly this tends to be an American thing, and it is often quite embarrassing to watch. I have sometimes felt the need to apologize as if somehow I am accountable as an American. Most Americans are great, but when they are not, it draws everyone’s attention.

Tip #3 Dining out in France

The French center their lives around food and drink. These meals should be slow and relaxing. The average meal lasts hours. Here are a few suggestions when eating out.

*Menus in nontouristy restaurants will not arrive immediately. It is rude culturally to rush you. You are given the time to settle, relax, and get acquainted. They will offer you an aperitif first. When the menu comes, you may wait a while for the server to take your order. They don’t want you to feel rushed. Also, as long as the menu is open, they will not come as it signals you are still deciding what to get. Again keep in mind the atmosphere is meant to be slow. If you are in a hurry for any reason, like to catch a train, explain that to the server immediately. Their first instinct is to give you space.

*Meals, once ordered, come with long breaks between courses. Most French cuisine is made fresh and to be served hot. It is rarely a rushed process.

*If you wait for the check to be delivered at the end of the meal, you are in for a very long wait. It is considered insulting to the guest to bring it without them asking. By far the rule for most of Europe. This is your table usually for as long as you want it. When you are ready, say “L’ addition S’il vous plait” followed by “Merci” once they acknowledge it.

These will be odd for many

*In a traditional restaurant, you rarely see salt and pepper on the table. The Chef has prepared this to their exact specifications, and seasoning is part of that. To add or alter it is seen as saying the Chef did not do their job. In reality, I rarely have felt any was needed.

*You will NEVER see butter on a traditional French table. The French do not put butter on their bread during meals, ever. It is best not to ask for it as it may not even be available as a condiment.

*As a norm, there is not a plate on the table designated for the bread. It is usually placed right on the tablecloth. It will be delivered in a basket of some type, but once you choose your piece, it goes on the table.

*One last thought, it is frowned upon to ask for a doggie bag; it is considered disrespectful. The servings are rarely large and are prepared fresh at their peak. The Chef may take personal afront as much effort was made to present a freshly prepared meal for you. It will be less enjoyed as a leftover and may take away from the experience. You can ask, but this would not be typical for the French to do so.

Tip #4 Learn the basic phrases

The majority of French people speak excellent English, except for older populations. It is respectful to know some essential words and greetings, even if you butcher it. By making an effort, you will find they are much freer with their English.

You don’t need to learn much. You should know the basic ones; the more, the better.

Want to learn how to pronounce the words and phrases above? Go to Google Translate, enter the word or phrase, and then hit the speaker icon at the base of the block.

Tip #5 DO NOT touch the produce

There are markets all over France, but the ones in Provence and Paris are some of the world’s best. It is a sight for the eyes. You might be tempted to touch the produce but DO NOT. That is the vendor’s job. You can leave it up to them or point but don’t touch yourself.

This is a good rule for shops as well. At times, touching merchandise gets you snapped at or brings you nasty looks. The saying “Keep your hands off the merchandise” is a cardinal rule in France.

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Tip #6 Shop hours are about work-life balance

Most shops and services are not open overnight or on Sundays. Life and work balance is taken seriously in France. Many shops still close for a long lunch from 12-2:00 pm. I have seen tourists become irritated at the shopkeepers due to this. This is how they chose to run their business, and if it bothers you, then find another open shop. Touristy areas tend to be open for longer hours.

In the summer, especially in August, many restaurants and shops close for weeks at a time for an extended vacation. Many small restaurants and shops are family-owned and run with little staff. When the owners are away, no one is left to “hold down the fort.”

The lesson here is to check hours and don’t count on anything being open into the evening, especially in small towns but even in cities like Paris.

Tip #7 When invited to someone’s home

If you are lucky enough to be invited to a home in France, you must always come bearing a gift. Please DO NOT make it wine. Your host pairs the wine based on the menu. To suggest you could know better than they do for a meal they planned is not well received even though it was not your intent. Bring flowers, a box of Macaroons, Chocolate or Champagne. Those are always well received.

Tip #8 The French love their dogs

The French are dog people, and their canine pets are everywhere. As a result, so is their doggy do-do, even in the streets of Paris. Though there are attempts to have owners pick up after their dogs, it is not as hoped. It doesn’t bother them, and they are out walking several times a day.

Their love for their pups also means they don’t take well to disapproval. Do not make faces or try to tell them to remove the doggy do, or you will get some very nasty looks. The French love their pets, and nobody messes with that. So watch your step with both your feet, words, and facial expressions!

In France, as in many European places, you may find dogs in the most unusual places. We had dinner at several upscale restaurants on a visit to Colmar, France. It wasn’t until the middle of our meal that we realized we had two tables near us, each with a dog. The dogs were given water bowls and something to lay on. They were very well-behaved and quiet. One was a small guy, but the other was a medium-sized dog. We have come across this often in our travels all over Europe. Once on the Brittany Coast of France, in a prestigious restaurant, most tables had dogs. This is cultural and accepted. We have found it charming, and as guests in their world, it is not our place to comment or judge.

If you wish to make a French locals’ day and find their dog exceptionally cute, you can say “Vous avez un chien mignon,” which means you have a cute dog. That will bring a smile to almost any French person’s face!

Tip #9 Keep those hands visible

Keeping your hands in your lap during a meal is not considered polite. Hands should be visible with both hands on the table. This is standard in most of Europe.

There is a good historical reason for this. In the XVII Century, Louis XIV became aware of a conspiracy to poison him with arsenic. Concerned that one of his guests at the dining table would try to kill him, he ordered that everyone keep their hands visible and place them on the table throughout all meals. As people often followed the aristocracy, the rest of the country soon followed suit.

Did it work for the other half of the Wanderers Compass Team?

Ryan’s first visit to France had him wondering if I may be biased about how I saw the French people. After years of hearing the opposite about the French, I was anxious to see his experience. As with everyone accompanying me to France, I shared the 9 Things to Know about French Culture Before You Visit, but it needed to be implemented to see how it worked.

I would step back often and let him lead the interactions and conversations. It was, across the board, in many different regions of France, always a positive experience. He found everyone he interacted with charming and gracious.

Final thoughts

The goal of the 9 Things to Know about French Culture Before You Visit is to give you easy tools to make your visit to France smooth and welcoming. It is a remarkable country that never ceases to amaze me. The people I have met during my travels to France over all these years are some of my favorite interactions. There is warmth and welcome from the French people that will charm you if you do the simplest of actions.

You will experience the same by following some of the practical tips above. Take the time to learn the essential words in the French language; it will serve you well. Knowing the etiquette and local customs will ensure a successful trip and memories that will last a lifetime.

Bon Voyage!

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