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9 Top Do’s and Don’ts When Visiting France

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“Whenever you go on a trip to visit foreign lands or distant places, remember that they are all someone’s home and backyard.”

Vera Nazarian
Paris
Paris

Knowing your audience is essential to ensure positive and productive interactions. This occurs in our daily lives with our families, friends, co-workers, and interacting with the public. Different cultures have different etiquette and expectations. When I travel, I come from the perspective that I am a guest in the country, the place they call home. It is my job as that guest to be a good one. I always take the time to learn at least the basic phrases to show respect for their way of life. This is especially important when visiting France.

First, let me start with some background and why I feel I am in a solid position to provide the 9 top do’s and don’ts when visiting France. I am a first-generation American born to French immigrants. French was my first language, and my extended family still lives in France. I have dual citizenship in the US and France. We traveled often to visit family all over France during my childhood. As an adult, I have continued to visit France every few years.

When visiting France, I am seen and treated as an American. My french is pretty broken now, and it is pretty obvious I am an American. Once, a shopkeeper in Paris said I find your French baffling, your grammar is atrocious, but your accent is excellent. It was the perfect description! To add to my experience, I have a behavioral science background that draws me to keenly observe the interactions around me.

A Reputation A Bit Misunderstood

The French have a reputation for being rude, intolerant, and hating Americans. That is so far from the truth, in my opinion. I have watched interactions that could reflect that, but it is usually the result of something that could have been avoided with some simple knowledge. As a result, I came up with the 9 Top Do’s and Don’ts when visiting France.

French people are some of the kindest and most gracious people I have come across in my travels. That is not my native bias speaking but from close observations outside of my own interactions. I have taken many American friends of all ages and watched closely and took the time to watch fellow American travelers interact with the locals.

When I travel to accompany friends and family for the first time, I always share my 9 Top Do’s and Don’ts when visiting France (#1 below is the most valuable one, I believe). They have rarely had negative experiences anywhere in France after that. My kids have traveled with me and alone and have never had issues. As a matter of fact, one of their statements after a three-week trip all over France was the only rude people they came across were Americans on the TGV who were shoving people.

Cultural Norm

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The French follow established manners, rules, and cultural customs or, simply said, etiquette. These are very important to the French, and by acting on these, you will find a much warmer and kinder welcome. The French are proud people; being aware and showing respect goes long. You are a guest in their country, be a good one. Know the 9 Top Do’s and Don’ts when visiting France and how best to interact with the French people, and you will likely find your experience remarkable.

As a disclaimer, I am not saying there are no rude French people, but in my travels around the world, they are some of the most polite travelers I encounter. All cultures have people who lack manners, grace, and appropriate behavior. I have seen what foreigners call the “ugly’ Americans, but they are not the norm either.

9 Top Do’s and Don’ts When Visiting France

Valuable Tips to Make Your Trip a Success

Tip #1

“Manners are about imagination, ultimately. They are about imagining being the other person.”

Lynne Truss

This is an important one!!! Let me set up the scenario. Imagine a guest walking in your home’s front door without acknowledging you, without a word or greeting. They then walk around your home and make themselves comfortable while still ignoring you. Would you be irritated? That is the crux of why many people receive what they call rude treatment or a cold shoulder when they enter a shop. The shopkeeper was treated rudely first per their customs, and their response was in kind. Right or wrong, that is why.

The French are a bit more formal and polite. As you walk in a boulangerie, patisserie, small boutique, pharmacy, or shop, you should always acknowledge the shopkeeper with eye contact and a clearly spoken Bonjour Madame (women) or Bonjour Monsieur (men). Do this immediately before entering the store, and don’t wait for them to greet you. The person you will encounter is often the owner, so this is their business, their livelihood, and sometimes their home.

Want to add some brownie points? Follow your hello with Comment ca va? (How are you?) This is how the French people do it. Watch, and you will see that is the case. Just a simple effort can bring a much more helpful and gracious salesperson. Observing many interactions over the years, I have found it pretty funny how improved the salesperson’s English suddenly becomes when treated politely.

As you depart, you can also throw in one or all of the following: Aurevoir, Merci Beaucoup, Bonne Journee. (Goodbye, Thank you, and Have a good day.) It shows respect and is the norm culturally. Would you leave a home you were a guest at and not say goodbye? It really is common sense.

Tip #2

Provence
Avignon, France


The above rule works well in restaurants too. Always make eye contact and greet the Host/Hostess upon entering. Once seated, greet your server and anyone else that comes to your table. Speak softly and slowly as many Americans tend to speak very loudly and in a condescending tone as if it somehow helps the staff understand English better. It is rude to the server and, in the process, disturbs other guests and the staff.

Interestingly this tends to be an American thing, and it is often quite embarrassing to watch. I have at times felt the need to apologize for it, as if somehow I am accountable as an American myself.

Tip #3

Parisian Cafe Eats

The French center their lives around food and drink. These meals are meant to be slow and relaxed. The average meal lasts hours. Here are a few suggestions when eating out.

1. Menus in nontouristy restaurants will not arrive immediately. It is considered rude. You are given the time to settle, relax, and get acquainted. You may be offered an aperitif first. When the menu comes, you may wait a while for the server to take your order. They don’t want you to feel rushed. Also, as long as the menu is open, they will not come as it signals you are still undecided. Again keep in mind the atmosphere is meant to be slow. If you are in a hurry for any reason, like to catch a train, explain that to the server immediately. Their first instinct is to give you space.

2. Meals, once ordered, come with long breaks between courses. Most French cuisine is made fresh and to be served hot. It is rarely a rushed process.

3. If you wait for the check to be delivered to you at the end of the meal, you are in for a long wait. It is considered insulting to the guest to bring it without them asking for it. By far the rule for most of Europe. This is your table usually for as long as you want it. When you are ready, say “L’ addition S’il Vous Plait” followed by “Merci” once they acknowledge it.

4. In a traditional restaurant, you will rarely see salt and pepper on the table. The Chef has prepared this to their exact specifications and seasoning is part of that. To add or alter to it is seen as saying the Chef did not do their job. In reality, I rarely have felt any was needed.

5. You will NEVER see butter on a traditional French table. The French do not put butter on their bread during meals, ever. It is best not to ask for it as it may not even be available to serve as a condiment.

6. One last thought, do not ask for a doggie bag; it is considered disrespectful. The servings are rarely large, and it is prepared fresh at their peak. The Chef may take personal afront as much effort was made to present a freshly prepared meal for you. It will be less enjoyed as a leftover and may take away from the experience.

Tip #4

Paris France adventures

The majority of French people speak excellent English, except for older populations. It always is respectful to know some essential words and greetings. You will find they are much freer with their English by making an effort. It is their home, so knowing the basics will serve you well.

You don’t need to learn much. You should know the basic ones; the more, the better.

Bonjour Good day

Salut Hello

Bonsoir Good evening

Au revoir Goodbye

Merci Thank you

Merci beaucoup Thank you very much

S’il vous Plait Please

Excusez-moi Excuse me

Je suis désolé: I’m sorry

Comment allez-vous? How are you?

Tres bien Very good

Je ne parle pas francais I don’t speak french

Oui Yes

Non No

L’addition s’il Vous Plait Check Please

De rein A casual “Your Welcome”

Où sont les toilettes? Where are the toilets?

Combien ça coûte?: How much is this?

Want to learn how to pronounce the words and phrases above? Go to Google Translate, enter the word or phrase, then hit the speaker icon at the base of the block.

Tip #5

French market

There are markets all over France, but the ones in Provence are some of the world’s best. It is a sight for the eyes. You might be tempted to touch the produce but DO NOT. That is the vendor’s job. You can leave it up to them or point, but don’t touch yourself.

This is a good rule for shops as well. Touching merchandise will, at times, get you snapped at and often bring you nasty looks. The saying Keep your hands off the merchandise works well as a rule in France.

Tip #6

French Shop

Most shops and services are not open overnight or on Sundays. Life and work balance is taken seriously in France. Many shops still close for a long lunch from 12-2:00 pm. I have seen tourists become irritated at the shopkeepers due to this. This is how they chose to run their business, and if it bothers you, then find another open shop.

In the summers, especially in August, many restaurants and shops close for weeks at a time for an extended vacation. Many small restaurants and shops are family-owned and run with little staff. When the owners are away, no one is left to “hold down the fort.”

The lesson here is to check hours and don’t count on anything being open into the evening, especially in small towns but even in cities like Paris.

Tip #7

Eze, France

If you are lucky enough to be invited to a home in France, you must always come bearing a gift. Please DO NOT make it wine. Your host pairs the wine based on the menu. To suggest you could know better than they do for a meal they planned is not well received even though it was not your intent. Bring flowers, a box of Macaroons, Chocolate or Champagne. Those are always well received.

Tip #8

French Market puppy

The French are dog people, and their canine pets are everywhere. As a result, so is their doggy do-do, even in the streets of Paris. Though there are attempts to have owners pick up after their dogs, it is not as hoped. It doesn’t bother them, and they are out walking several times a day.

Their love for their pups also means they don’t take well to disapproval. Do not make faces or try to advise them to remove the doggy do, or you will get some very nasty looks. The French love their pets, and nobody messes with that. So watch your step with both your feet, words, and facial expressions!

In France, as in many places in Europe, you may find dogs in the most unusual of places. In our recent visit to Colmar France, we had dinner at an upscale restaurant. It wasn’t until the middle of our meal did we realize we had two tables near us, each with a dog. The dogs were given water bowls and something to lay on. They were very well behaved and quiet. One was a small guy but the other was a medium sized dog. We have come across this often in our travels. Once on the Brittany Coast of France, most tables had dogs with them in a very prestigious restaurant. This is cultural and accepted. We have found it really quite charming and as we are guests in their world, it is not our place to comment or judge.

If you wish to make a French locals day, and you find their dog exceptionally cute, you can say “Vous avez un chien mignon,” which means you have a cute dog. That will bring a smile to almost any French person’s face!

Tip #9

Paris France
Benoit Restaurant Paris

It is not considered polite to keep your hands in your lap during a meal. Hands should be visible with both hands on the table. This is standard in most of Europe.

There is a good historical reason for this. In the XVII Century, Louis XIV became aware of a conspiracy to poison him with arsenic. Concerned that one of his guests at the dining table would try to kill him, he ordered that everyone keep their hands visible and placed on the table throughout all meals. As people often followed the aristocracy, the rest of the country soon followed suit.

Did it work for the other half of the Wanderers Compass Team?

Ryan’s first visit to France had him wondering if I may be biased about how I saw the French people. After years of hearing the opposite about the French, he was very anxious to see what his own experience would be. As with everyone accompanying me to France, I shared the 9 Top Do’s and Don’ts when visiting France, but it needed to be implemented to see what really works.

I would step back often and let him lead the interactions and conversations. It was across the board, in many different regions of France, always a positive experience. It works!

Final thoughts

Flowers on the Seine

The goal of the 9 Top Do’s and Don’ts when visiting France is to give you easy tools to make your visit to France smooth and welcoming. It is a remarkable country that never ceases to amaze me. The people I have met during my travels to France over all these years are some of my favorite interactions. There is warmth and welcome from the French people who will charm you if you do the simplest actions.

You will experience the same by following some of these practical tips above. Take the time to learn the basics words in the french language; it will serve you well. Knowing the etiquette and local customs will ensure a successful trip and memories that will last a lifetime.

Bon Voyage!

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